the radical ethics of kindness

A work friend once gave me a sticker that said
Be Kind.”
On the back she wrote
This made me think of you.

I walked out the door of my last job with that sticker in hand. It touched my heart in a way that I hadn’t felt was present at work for a long time. Reflecting on those words, I realized that what was missing, and what was most important to me, was how I am treated and how I treat other people. Taking care of human beings, treating them with respect and dignity, trusting them to do their best, and above all, being kind toward them. Organizations are not necessarily structured to ensure that happens. Organizational leadership does not always care so much about it either.

With that realization, I have spent this past year exploring what I call the “Radical Ethics of Kindness.” A kindness ethic that can be used as the measuring stick for all that I do: all the actions I take in my thinking, speaking and behaving. It challenges me to do better in my day-to-day world. I’ve also found it gives me courage to take what I see as an ethical stand and it provides basic clarity for how I want to live my life: present and aware in every moment.

This theme will wind its way through many of my blog posts. Other virtues will find their way in as well. In the book of Galatians, the Apostle Paul said that the fruit of the spirit is a set of virtues: “love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” I grew up as a Catholic, and now practice and teach Buddhism as an ordained Dharma Teacher. The virtues and deep teachings of both spiritual traditions have found resonance in my heart and soul. I hope to offer some of what I have learned over the many years of my life to those who are interested in my writings.

“My Religion is Kindness”

-Kathleen Braza
nationally recognized
bereavement educator and counselor
1947-2025

morning mists

Intimate with
breath
moving
in and out

Gentle kindness
embracing a troubled
heart and mind

Calm, space.

Moist tears of
realization and compassion
gathering like
morning mist rising from
the body of the earth
as she is touched by
warm rays from
the heart of the sun.
Nisi

squirrel gatherings

Over the past week I have hit and killed two squirrels as I drive the country roads on my way to work. Sometimes animals show up in my life, and their life energy speaks to something I am struggling with. I’m not saying these squirrels died for my sake, but that the experience was an opportunity to wake me up to how they live their lives, and to the lessons they may have to offer me:

“Squirrel has another lesson which can aid you if you observe the obvious, and which can prepare you for anything. It has to do with the safe place in which to put your gatherings. This safe place is an untroubled heart and mind, and that which is gathered to put in this place is wisdom and  caring.

The energies gathered will set your heart and mind free, so that you will know that all will be taken care of in its own time. Apply this to your fears about the future and they will vanish.”

Jamie Sams & David Carson

a poem for winter

Even in the dead of
a dark dreary winter

Life teems in
the garden of my heart

Bright yellow Winter Aconite
blooms off branches
dusted in snow

Blue sky mixes with
rain clouds, fog, and
a sun low in the sky

Light reflects within
the shadows of
sadness, sorrow,
anxiety

A tender, timid love
gently, bravely
warms the cold
edges AND

A mysterious enlightening
Buddha
shows me the way home

Nisi 2017